Friday, June 3, 2016

beginnings and endings

I have been considering dropping some of my online presence, not because of anything negative, but because I have found myself really engaged in training, reading, and sewing.  I gave myself some time to see what felt right, and found some surprising things:

PatternReview no longer fills my need to talk sewing.  It is so large now and I am disenchanted with the censorship.  I understand why, but miss the vital conversations which were so interesting. I stop in each day and spend perhaps 15 minutes now.

Facebook has some value to me as I can use it to quickly scan the major political headlines and check in with some private groups to see what others are doing with sewing, art or horses.  I cut my time there by 75%. 

My blog goes quiet from time to time, and this recent hiatus allowed me to reconnect with my writer's voice.  For me, my blog is not about my accomplishments, but about my life.  Sewing, art, horses, dogs, politics, cooking, friends, family, books and movies all add to the mix here.  

Let me introduce a new member of my family:
                             Griffin (AKA Griff)

Griff is 1 year 2 months old and is from the Pima Co. Animal Shelter.  He is probably boxer/pit bull-2 breeds known for being good family dogs and quite tenacious.  I have had terriers for years so the obsessive tenacity (lizard!) is familiar.  Griff is 50 lbs right now and I expect him to gain maybe 10 more as he fills out.  He is super quiet:

and is very interested in people and people's stuff:

He is one of those special dogs who are sweet as pie, and love all people and other dogs.  In that, he is a perfect match for big Nick, who is also sweet as pie.

Griff has helped Ross and I manage our sadness in losing little Nick.  Little Nick was slowly giving up parts of his life and when he stopped wanting to walk, we knew it was time.  He was with us for 14 years and is now resting without pain.

I will always hold you in my heart little Nick.  


  1. I've missed your writer's voice, Mary! And welcome to sweet-as-pie Griff.

  2. Mary, I am so sorry about Nick.. Griff is adorable.
    I too, miss the sewing interactions.. Love to talk sewing. ha
    I haven't been very good at blogging. since working on our now house, selling our other house and moving.. There was very little sewing time.. I have really missed it..Hope to get to sewing soon.. Have a great weekend.

  3. So sorry for you loss, but you new puppy looks wonderful. It's hard to let go, and fun to acquaint ourselves with our new pets. Haven't been sewing much myself as the big move is coming up rather quickly.
    Have a fabulous summer and check in when you can!

  4. Mary I really love your posts because they are about the 'whole' you not just sewing. I'm sure you'll miss Nick but Griff is there to fill the hole.

  5. Griff seems to be a doll. I'm sorry for Nicks loss, but I hope your new pup brings you much joy.

  6. Glad to see a post from you, joy at seeing your new family member, tears over Little Nick.

  7. Good to hear from you. Griff looks adorable.

  8. I love your blog for your unique voice and perspective. When a new post comes, I slow down, read and savor. Thanks for sharing your sweet beauty Griff. I hope he learns to leave your sandals, remotes and eyeglasses (oh wait that was My dog who ate those) far from his doggie teeth. Ditto about Pattern Review and FB. Write on Mary!

  9. Hurray! I was waiting a new post. And so worth it. Mr. G is very handsome along with all his other wonderful attributes. Love the pic of him cooling on the tile floor. And not a shoe in sight either!
    Glad life is full and fun. I have given up Pattern Review ages ago as you know and Facebook never really grabbed me. What sewing groups have you found you liked?

  10. Your new pup looks adorable.

  11. Interesting, Mary. Well, I've always enjoyed your musings, hope that part of your writing will continue. Joy for you that you're busy and engaged in your almost-new environment.

  12. I think we all go through seasons in our lives. What once met a need, no longer does, and I think that's a very positive thing as it indicates growth. And we should always be growing :)
    My Miss Little Bit has had some issues recently. She seems to be the come back kid, but I know that one day, there will be no comebacks left. Of course it breaks my heart to think of not having her. But thanks for the reminder that a new friend brings something new and special into our lives. And of course we are all the richer for what the old friend left behind.

  13. Good to hear from you, Mary. I always enjoy your writing. I know how hard the loss of a much loved pet is and also the joy a new one can bring.

  14. I think it's possible Griffin may be part basenji. I thought so the first time I saw his photo and when I read that he's super quiet, he may very well be! Basenjis are the breed that can't bark but have a rather melodic 'baroo'
    One other thing - they have no 'wet dog' smell when wet. Being he may be a part, he may not have this characteristic but if he does, yay!
    There is a basenji Club in Arizona, so if you have any questions, I'm sure they would answer.
    The club info can be found at the national club site,

    1. Now that you say that, I definitely see it! The eyes and the coloring.

  15. Nice to hear from you again Mary. I love to read about your (almost) new life - especially as it is so different from mine in the south of England. Very sad to hear about little Nick and hope Griff will bring you lots of joy. Our Goldie is almost 10 now and I dread the day when he leaves us. After a lifetime of dogs this one has a very special place in my heart - there will not be any more after him. Keep blogging if you can but if it has no place in your life then don't feel a pressure to write.

  16. Hi Mary, I'm sorry to hear about little Nick - dogs are such special creatures and impact the heart greatly. I hope Griffin enjoys the love you give him.

    As for online presence, yes, I think it is essential to monitor what works. I think for those of you that were online in the sewing world a decade ago, needs were met because it was small and intimate. I joined the online sewing world only three years ago, and it was large and not so personal then. But I enjoy sitting and writing about my sewing, so that is fine! And I don't mind having a small circle of blogging friends whose blogs I enjoy. As in real life, there are only so many people you can spend time with.

  17. I'm so sorry about Nick. Griffin looks like a wonderful dog. I don't hang out on Pattern Review anymore either. Same reasons.

  18. Hi Mary, I am so sorry about Nick. Hope the adorable Griffin will bring back the joy.

  19. I've definitely felt your absence. But I am glad you are well and doing what you want to do! I am happy to see you, from time to time, on Facebook.

  20. My first reaction on opening your blog was, "Good-looking dog!" He has the look of an old soul.

    I'm really sorry about Little Nick. Pets are just, well, they really are more than pets. They open a space in our hearts that feels so empty when they go. The good news is that Griff will widen a new space in your heart. The sad part is that, while the missing space left by Little Nick will heal, it will always be there. But then, so will your memories of him.

    BTW, and I should have said this first, I have missed your thoughtful and thought-stimulating posts, and I'm glad to see you here again.

  21. Sorry to hear about your loss.
    Do what makes you feel happy.


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