I had a principal one time who HATED me-who looked for every opportunity to put me on the defensive.
This man had the audacity to try to HUG me when first meeting me. I was a department chair at that time, and a member of the Association leadership. I was called into a meeting of admins in order to be introduced to him before he took over the school. I stuck my hand out, and he started to put his arms around me. I said, wryly "I don't believe I gave you permission to hug me." Thus began our relationship.
Here are some comments I have heard:
"Smile, it's not that bad"
"You are prettier when you smile"
"Did I do something to upset you?"
"What a bitch"
and so on.
What confused me as a younger woman now infuriates me.
This is the same sexist attitude which allowed Reince Priebus to complain that Hillary Clinton needs to smile more. Would he have said the same of Trump? Hell no. Men are given a pass on the behaviors which grease the social contacts we make. They are not expected to show each of the minute expressions of active listening, to widen their eyes to show appreciation, or to smile encouragingly. They don't need to smile demurely before explaining a complex point. No one expects them to cock their head in a coy way before solving a quadratic equation, or outlining the history of the conflict in Syria.
But, let a woman step up and make a point, solve an equation, or outline the history of the Syrian situation with no smiles, head tilts, or eye widening-->she will be labeled a cold bitch.
I admire Hillary's resolve and tenaciousness in the face of intense scrutiny and criticism. I admire her ability to process incredible amounts of information and use that info to make decisions. I admire her history of team building and using all the tools at her disposal to help ease some of the world's problems. I admire her as a person who has worked hard all her life to help those who need it. I admire her RBF.