|Guanajuato, Mexico 2011|
We have been married since 1975...to each other, with no breaks. I only mention this because in 37 years, plus 3 more living together years, a contented couple learns the art of compromise. Toilet paper rolls OVER, seat stays DOWN, spaghetti sauce needs oil, and Diet Coke is better than Pepsi. I'm sure there are more rules and regs in this house but sometimes looking too closely at the compromises is not worthwhile.
One compromise we settled on recently concerned his health and my need to be get support from my friends. He asked me to not talk of our concerns and I did not. I let him direct what news went out and who could hear it. At one point, he did talk with another couple who are long time friends and they have been a source of comfort and good wishes. This helped me be a better partner and stronger in the face of whatever might happen. In the last 3 months, Ross has been through a series of doctor appointments, CT scans, X rays, ultrasound, etc. Suffice it to say that we have hit our deductible for 2012. What began as a bad cough, and mushroomed to possible laryngeal cancer has finally been diagnosed as a mass on his thyroid.
If you would like, you can read his own blog entry again with almost cancer, which is an update of the results, our reactions and our recent foiled travel plans. Ross has a wonderful writing style and I always enjoy his wry humor. I hope you do too. This post and my link to his blog are my way of just letting you know what we are up to recently. We are feeling great, and are as pleased as possible with the results. We will be fine throughout the next steps. Retirement is wonderful, but dammit, it also means aging and health scares and some loss of physical endurance. If I can paint a realistic picture for those of you coming along the road behind us, I will have helped.
Finally, my Minoru jacket is done! Done, completed, steamed and pressed, finished. Oh, how pretty it is too.